How embracing your children helps strengthen bonds

Some children today, are facing a lack of love and affection. Such children are more likely to fall prey to addictions than a child who is given more love and affection.

Consider the story of 12-year-old Billy. Even at the young age of 6, Billy would try getting the attention of his mother and father, who were, no doubt very busy people. However, the extent of their busyness had grown so much that they had stopped paying attention to Billy. At the age of 12, the father of the boy received a call from the school, asking him to meet the teachers.

During the meeting, the parents met with shock-after-shock. The boy had started skipping school, his grades were falling lower and lower. One of the teachers had seen him smoking near the school, he had begun fighting with a few boys in the class, and his behavior with the teachers was slowly going from bad to worse.

Even though the parents tried denying all the allegations, they couldn't shrug off the fact that his grades were shooting downwards.

So, what went wrong?

At the age of 6, Billy couldn't understand why his parents ignored him. He tried doing everything he could, to make his parents happy. However, when nothing worked, he felt extremely bad. He did not have anyone to share his feelings with, nor did he have anyone to listen to.

Thus, when someone from his school allowed him into their company, he felt good and did everything to make them happy, however bad that company may have been. This was initially not a problem, because his parents were not at all observant. This, however, became a problem, when he posed an issue to everyone in the class.

What should we do in such a situation?

The best thing to do is to first accept the situation as it is. Denying only causes more harm. When you accept the situation, you can move towards the solution.

Next, you must talk to your child. It is however best, to consult a person or organization skilled in helping you out.

This is fulfilled by us, as we do have a team of coaches who are skilled, and equipped to help both parents and students to find solutions specific to them. This is because, each person's problem is unique to them, not just due to their personality, but also due to the circumstances they are currently in. You may contact our coaches here.

Once you have decided what to do, go ahead. However, do realize, that everything is a slow process. It is always better to consult experts, as they do have the requisite knowledge and skills required.